Big life decisions look different for everyone. Should I take this job? Should I stay in this relationship? Do I want to stay in this relationship? When is a good time for me to go back to school? When should I have children? Do I want children? The hardest question of all: What makes me happy?

Life decisions are big for a reason; they stir the course and move the ship– whether forward, sideways, backwards, whatever direction you want to make it. But how to you make “Big Life Decisions”? The big BLD. If you are at a fork on the rode with this BLD, congratulations. Let’s take a moment to commemorate how you got so lucky to even have this BLD to think about. BLD means you’re taking the ropes of your life and being purposeful about its course. BLD means changes are coming, new challenges are arising, and we embrace new experiences with open arms.

Making big life decisions can be a challenging and stressful process. Here are a few steps you can follow to help you make a decision that is right for you:

1. Define and get clear about the decision you need to make. Take some time to think about what you are trying to decide and why it is important to you.
2. Gather information. Look for information that will help you understand your options and the potential consequences of each one. This might include researching your options, talking to people who have experience with similar decisions, or consulting with experts or advisors.
3. Identify your values. Think about what is most important to you and how each option aligns with your values.
4. Consider the potential outcomes. What are the potential benefits and drawbacks of each option? How will each option affect you and the people around you?
5. Make a list of pros and cons. Write down the pros and cons of each option to help you see them more clearly.
6. Seek support. Talk to trusted friends and family members about your decision, or consider working with a therapist or coach to help you process your thoughts and feelings.
7. Trust your instincts. Trust yourself and your ability to make a good decision. It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers – sometimes it’s important to take a chance and see where it leads.

Remember, making a big decision is not something that you have to do alone. Seek out the support and guidance of others when making a decision that will have a significant impact on your life.